Stella Smith, 44, says her new ‘arrangement’ is life-changing and hopes that by sharing her story she will encourage others to be less judgemental about unconventional forms of dating
A single mum ditched conventional romance to become a ‘sugar baby’ in her forties and is treated to cash gifts and a £2,000 monthly allowance.
Stella Smith, 44, is keen to stress that she is not exchanging sex for money and that what she does is entirely different to escorting.
“There are other sites you can go to for that, but that’s not what I’m doing,” she said.
“This isn’t about sex – it’s about company and finding someone who shares my values. The financial support is just an aside.
“I’ve never felt pressure to sleep with the men I’ve met. They don’t expect it, either – they don’t even expect a kiss.
“I’m a very friendly and warm person, but I’ve also been careful to make my boundaries very clear.”
Stella joined Seeking Arrangement – a network ‘connecting attractive, ambitious women with wealthy suitors’ – when she was furloughed from her job in events planning in March.
Moving to London in 2014, Stella threw herself into work, juggling her day job with teaching dance and gymnastics on the side.
Then in March when a national lockdown was imposed to slow the spread of Covid-19 and she was furloughed, she started examining her love life history to work out where she was going wrong.
“I thought over my past relationships, what had been missing and how I could have made them better,” she said.
“It wasn’t necessarily about money. I realised I wanted to be with someone more successful.
“I thought a more established man may be more relaxed and fun to be around.”
Armed with a plan, Stella began to search for a more “exclusive” dating site
She stumbled upon Seeking Arrangement – matching women, known as sugar babes, with well-heeled men, known as sugar daddies, who give them material benefits in return for a dating-style relationship.
“I was curious and wanted to give it a go,” she said. “I thought there was no harm in trying to find a different type of relationship to the ones I’d had before.”
In early April, Stella set up a profile explaining who she was and what she was looking for in a man.
She added: “I didn’t name an exact amount of money I wanted or anything like that. I just said connection was a must, but that I was also looking for financial support.
“It was quite embarrassing to put all my cards on the table like that.”
Within a few days, she had received over 100 messages from interested suitors.
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